Month: February 2021

Personal Change that Works: Forget “Resolutions”

BY dr. bert pitts Despite their historical popularity, personal “resolutions” (such as those made around New Year’s Day) usually don’t work and tend to set us up for failure. Specifically, let’s examine a typical New Year’s Resolution: Let’s say I have the thought, then to hold myself accountable, I tell a friend that “losing 15 pounds” is my …

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How to Love and Support Those in Grief (and Avoid Inadvertently Adding to their Pain)

by Dr. Kristine Hurst-Wajszczuk Note from Dr. Pitts: Kristine is a dear friend and professional singing buddy of mine. She is a Music Professor at UAB (choral conductor, voice teacher, opera director). She possesses great intelligence, depth, and heart, and is an engaging and gifted teacher. Kristine lost her father earlier this year: Her own …

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Honey, We Need to Go to Time-out

By Dr. Bert Pitts Communicating through conflict requires that the couple pay close attention to the emotional “temperature” between them. Maintaining dialogue (two-way communication) is crucial. Both people have to share honestly, and both have to be heard, which requires that both closely listen (which is more difficult for most than is talking). Dialogue can …

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